Sis, I need you to notice something about your conversations with him. You talk to him for 30 minutes, an hour, maybe longer. And when the conversation ends, you’re exhausted. Not the good kind of tired that comes from a deep, meaningful connection. Not the comfortable fatigue of vulnerability and intimacy. You’re drained. Depleted. Empty.
Sis, I need to talk to you about what happens when you try to set a boundary. You tell him something that makes you uncomfortable. You express what you need. You say, “I’m not okay with this.” You communicate a clear limit. And he dismisses it. “You’re overreacting.” “You’re being too sensitive.” “That’s ridiculous.” “You’re
Sis, I see you trying to address problems before they become crises. You mention something that’s bothering you. You bring up an issue that needs attention. You point out a pattern that’s hurting the relationship. You try to have conversations about things that need to change. And he ignores you. “It’s not that big of
Sis, I need to talk to you about what happens after you disagree with him. You had an argument. Maybe it was resolved, maybe it wasn’t. Maybe you were right, maybe you were both partially right. Maybe you apologized, maybe he did. But now he’s punishing you with silence. Not the comfortable silence of two
Sis, I see you trying to have a conversation about something important. Maybe it’s an issue in the relationship. Maybe it’s something he did that hurt you. Maybe it’s a problem that needs to be solved together. You’re calm. You’re respectful. You’re not attacking. You just need to communicate. And he shuts down. He goes
Sis, I see you stuck in an exhausting cycle. This cycle can slowly drain your emotional energy and leave you feeling confused about where you stand. He pushes you away. He creates distance. He’s cold, unavailable, and emotionally withdrawn. He makes you feel unwanted, unloved, like you’re too much or not enough. Emotional withdrawal can
Sis, I need to ask you something direct. What is your relationship status right now? Are you together? Are you exclusive? Are you committed? Are you building toward something? You don’t know, do you? I see you living in constant ambiguity. You’re doing everything a girlfriend does—giving him your time, attention, affection, body, emotional energy—but
Sis, I need you to see the pattern you’re stuck in. When you’re fully invested, giving him everything, showing up consistently, being present—he puts in minimal effort. He takes you for granted. He’s comfortable. He doesn’t chase. He doesn’t try. He coasts. But the moment you start pulling away? The moment you get quiet, start
Sis, let me ask you something. When was the last time things felt stable, calm, and good in your relationship—and he actually stayed present for it? I see a pattern you’re living through: Every time the relationship settles into a good place—no drama, no fighting, just consistent connection and stability—he disappears emotionally. Not physically (always).
Sis, I see you living in emotional whiplash. Yesterday, he was loving, attentive, and affectionate. He texted you all day. He told you how much he cares. He made plans for the future. He was present, engaged, all in. Today? He’s a completely different person. Cold. Distant. Short responses. “Busy.” Unavailable. It’s like the man
