Sis, if choosing yourself makes you feel selfish, I want you to understand something important. When you are constantly overgiving, your love becomes mixed with fear. You are not always giving from fullness. Sometimes you are giving to avoid abandonment, conflict, guilt, or rejection. But when you begin to choose yourself, your love becomes cleaner.
Sis, I need to talk to you about why I feel selfish for choosing myself and the guilt that stops you from prioritizing yourself. You have a choice to make: And when you choose yourself, you feel selfish for choosing yourself. Not just a little guilty. Deeply, crushingly selfish. Like you’re doing something morally wrong.
Sis, I need to talk to you about why I feel responsible for keeping the peace and the job you never applied for but somehow ended up with. There’s tension in the room. Conflict brewing. Discomfort building. Someone’s upset. And you immediately go into action: Because somehow, keeping the peace is YOUR job. Not because
Sis, I need to talk to you about why I say yes when I want to say no and the word you can’t seem to say. Someone asks you for something. Everything in you screams NO: And you hear yourself say yes when you want to say no. Not because you changed your mind. Not
Sis, I need to talk to you about why you feel anxious when someone is upset with me and how it controls your emotions. Someone might be upset with you. Maybe. Possibly. You’re not even sure. But the mere possibility sends you into a spiral because you feel anxious when someone is upset with you:
Sis, I need to talk to you about why you overextend yourself to avoid disappointing others and how you’re destroying yourself to keep others happy. You’re already at capacity. Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Running on empty. You have nothing left to give. But someone asks you for something, and you say yes because you overextend yourself to
Sis, I need to talk to you about the guilt that’s keeping you trapped.You know you need boundaries. You know you need boundaries. You understand intellectually that you’re allowed to say no, to protect your time and energy, to have limits. You even try to set boundaries sometimes. But the moment you do, the guilt
Why do I feel responsible for other people’s happiness? Many people develop this pattern through emotional caretaking, childhood conditioning, and people-pleasing habits. Sis, I need to talk to you about the weight you’re carrying that was never yours to carry. You feel responsible for everyone’s happiness. When your partner is upset, you feel like it’s
Sis, I need to talk to you about the pattern I see destroying you from the inside out. Many people struggle with people pleasing even when it hurts, yet feel unable to stop the pattern. You people-please. You say yes when you mean no. You overextend yourself to make others happy. You suppress your own
Sis, I need to talk to you about the anxiety that grips you when you even think about saying no. Many people secretly ask themselves why they feel anxious saying no, even when they are already overwhelmed and exhausted. You’re overwhelmed. Your plate is overflowing. You’re exhausted, stretched thin, running on empty. You have nothing