Sis, I need to talk to you about the painful feeling that won’t go away, even though you’re in a relationship. Many people feel unchosen in relationship even when they are technically committed. You’re committed to him. He says he’s committed to you. You’re together. You’re in a relationship. And yet—you feel unchosen. You feel
Sis, I need to talk to you about the measuring stick you keep failing to meet. Many people feel like they are always falling short in relationships, no matter how hard they try. No matter what you do in your relationship, it never feels like enough. You try harder. You give more. You work on
Sis, I need to talk to you about the loneliest feeling you’re experiencing. Many people feel invisible even when they are doing everything right in life. You’re doing everything right. You’re working hard. You’re being responsible. You’re meeting expectations. You’re checking all the boxes. You’re being the person you think you should be. You’re doing
Sis, I need to talk to you about how hard you’re working for something that should be freely given. Many people believe they must earn love through effort instead of simply receiving it. You’re trying to earn love. You’re working overtime to be good enough, helpful enough, attractive enough, successful enough, perfect enough—to deserve love.
Sis, I need to talk to you about whose opinion you trust most. Many people rely on external validation and trust others’ opinions more than their own self-assessment. You know yourself better than anyone. You know your efforts, your intentions, your struggles, your growth. You know what you’ve overcome, what you’re working on, what you’re
Sis, I need to talk to you about the moment you’re always waiting for. Many people feel they need to feel chosen by someone else in order to feel valuable. The moment someone chooses you. When he picks you over other options, you feel valuable. When he commits to you specifically, you feel worthy. When
Sis, I need to talk to you about the emptiness you’re trying to fill. Many people feel empty without external approval and depend on validation from others to feel worthy. When you receive external approval, you feel full. When people praise you, validate you, like you, and approve of you, you feel okay. Whole. Worthy.
Sis, I need to talk to you about where you’re looking for your worth. Many women struggle with male validation and feel worthy only when men approve of them. You rely on male validation to feel valuable. When a man shows interest, you feel worthy. When he compliments you, you feel beautiful. When he chooses
Many people constantly need reassurance in a relationship to feel secure and loved. “Do you still love me?” “Are we okay?” “Are you sure?” “You’re not mad at me?” “You still want this, right?” “We’re good?” “Promise?” You need constant reassurance to feel secure in your relationship. One reassurance isn’t enough. It works for a
Sis, I need to talk to you about the guilt that’s keeping you trapped.You know you need boundaries. You know you need boundaries. You understand intellectually that you’re allowed to say no, to protect your time and energy, to have limits. You even try to set boundaries sometimes. But the moment you do, the guilt