Sis, I need to talk to you about why I feel responsible for keeping the peace and the job you never applied for but somehow ended up with. There’s tension in the room. Conflict brewing. Discomfort building. Someone’s upset. And you immediately go into action: Because somehow, keeping the peace is YOUR job. Not because
Sis, I need to talk to you about why I say yes when I want to say no and the word you can’t seem to say. Someone asks you for something. Everything in you screams NO: And you hear yourself say yes when you want to say no. Not because you changed your mind. Not
Sis, I need to talk to you about why you feel anxious when someone is upset with me and how it controls your emotions. Someone might be upset with you. Maybe. Possibly. You’re not even sure. But the mere possibility sends you into a spiral because you feel anxious when someone is upset with you:
Sis, I need to talk to you about why you overextend yourself to avoid disappointing others and how you’re destroying yourself to keep others happy. You’re already at capacity. Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Running on empty. You have nothing left to give. But someone asks you for something, and you say yes because you overextend yourself to
Sis, I need to talk to you about why you feel undesirable when comparing and how comparison makes you feel unwanted. You’re with your partner. You’re in public together. You’re scrolling social media. You’re at a social event. And you see other women. Women who seem: And instantly, you feel undesirable when comparing yourself to
Sis, I need to talk to you about why comparison destroys your confidence and how you lose yourself the moment you start comparing. You wake up feeling good about yourself. Confident. Capable. Enough. Then you scroll social media. Or you meet someone new. Or you see another woman. Or you hear about someone’s success. And
Sis, I need to talk to you about why you assume other women are better than you and the ranking system you’ve created in your mind. You meet a new woman, and you automatically assume other women are better than you. Not sometimes. Not occasionally. Every single time. Before you know anything about her, before
Sis, I need to talk to you about how other women make you feel. A beautiful woman walks into the room—and you immediately feel less than. A confident woman speaks—and you shrink. A successful woman exists—and you feel inadequate. An attractive woman is nearby—and you spiral into insecurity. Other women don’t even have to do
Sis, I need to talk to you about why you compare yourself to women he follows every time you look at his phone. You know you shouldn’t look. You know it hurts. You know nothing good comes from it. But you can’t stop yourself. You scroll through the women he follows on Instagram. The models.
Sis, I need to talk to you about why self love feels unnatural and how strange it feels when you try to love yourself. You know you’re supposed to love yourself. Everyone says it. Self-help books, therapists, Instagram posts—they all preach self-love. But when you actually try it, it feels completely unnatural, and self love