If you feel selfish choosing myself, you are not alone. Many women feel selfish choosing themselves at first. Sis, I need to ask you something directly. When was the last time you made a decision purely for yourself—because it was what YOU wanted, what YOU needed, what was best for YOU—without immediately feeling like a
Self-love after being hurt can feel impossible. Sis, I see you carrying wounds… He hurt you. Maybe he cheated. Maybe he lied. Maybe he betrayed your trust. Maybe he abandoned you. Maybe he spent months or years making you feel like you weren’t enough. And now you’re trying to love yourself. Trying to rebuild. Trying
Sis, I need you to think about the last time you had a need in your relationship — and how often you neglect your own needs in relationships. Not a want. A need. Something genuinely important to your wellbeing, your happiness, your sense of self. build a strong sense of self What Happens When You
Sis, I need to ask you something. When was the last time you put yourself first without feeling terrible about it? When did you last say no to someone’s request, choose your needs over someone else’s wants, take time for yourself, set a boundary—without being consumed by guilt? I’m guessing you can’t remember. Or maybe
Sis, I see you caught in a painful contradiction. Intellectually, you know your value. You can list your strengths, your qualities, and your accomplishments. You know on paper that you’re worthy of love, respect, and good treatment. But you don’t feel it. You know you deserve better, but you stay in relationships that treat you
Sis, I need to talk to you about something that might sound contradictory, but I know you’re feeling it. You feel like you’re too much for him: And at the exact same time, you feel like you’re not enough: You’re simultaneously too much AND not enough. It’s like you’re taking up too much space while
Sis, I need to talk to you about what happens inside you when he pulls away. One day, everything feels good. Connected. Close. You feel secure. Then he pulls away. Maybe he’s distant. Maybe he’s “busy.” Maybe he’s suddenly cold where he was warm. Maybe he’s stopped texting as much. Maybe he’s emotionally unavailable when
Feeling replaceable even when you give your best can be heartbreaking.This painful question keeps running through your mind when you feel replaceable in a relationship. Sis, I see you giving everything you have to this relationship. Feeling replaceable in a relationship can be deeply painful, especially when you are giving your best. You’re showing up.
Sis, I need you to think about something. When was the last time you felt like you could just be in your relationship? Without performing. Without proving. Without constantly demonstrating that you’re worthy of love. I’m guessing you can’t remember. I see you in a perpetual audition. Trying to prove you’re girlfriend material. Showing him
Sis, I see you pouring everything you have into this relationship. You’re giving your time, your energy, your love, your body, your patience, your understanding. You’re showing up. You’re trying. You’re being the best partner you know how to be. And somehow, it still feels like you’re not enough. No matter what you do, no